November Rain and Pain ~ Thursday Inspiration

I am back to Jim’s Thursday Inspiration, and this week’s theme is pain or inspiration from the song November Rain by Gun N’ Roses.

Immediately when I saw the word “pain”, I thought of Three Days Grace’s song called Pain. I will share the song and then talk more about it.

“Pain”

Pain, without love
Pain, I can’t get enough
Pain, I like it rough
‘Cause I’d rather feel pain than nothing at all

You’re sick of feeling numb
You’re not the only one
I’ll take you by the hand
And I’ll show you a world that you can understand
This life is filled with hurt
When happiness doesn’t work
Trust me and take my hand
When the lights go out you will understand

Pain, without love
Pain, I can’t get enough
Pain, I like it rough
‘Cause I’d rather feel pain than nothing at all
Pain, without love
Pain, I can’t get enough
Pain, I like it rough
‘Cause I’d rather feel pain than nothing at all

Anger and agony
Are better than misery
Trust me I’ve got a plan
When the lights go off you’ll understand

Pain, without love
Pain, I can’t get enough
Pain, I like it rough
‘Cause I’d rather feel pain than nothing at all
Pain, without love
Pain, I can’t get enough
Pain, I like it rough
‘Cause I’d rather feel pain than nothing
Rather feel pain

I know (I know I know I know)
I know that you’re wounded
You know (You know you know you know)
That I’m here to save you
You know (You know you know you know)
I’m always here for you
I know (I know I know I know)
That you’ll thank me later

Pain, without love
Pain, can’t get enough
Pain, I like it rough
‘Cause I’d rather feel pain than nothing at all
Pain, without love
Pain, I can’t get enough
Pain, I like it rough
‘Cause I’d rather feel pain than nothing at all
Pain, without love
Pain, I can’t get enough
Pain, I like it rough
‘Cause I’d rather feel pain than nothing at all
Rather feel pain than nothing at all
Rather feel pain

When I found “Pain”, I needed to hear it. I needed to feel it, and it is the song that made me fall in love with Three Days Grace (3DG). I was living in a painful and loveless marriage, and everyone was unhappy, including my kids, and I needed to feel something. I did not have any diagnosis back then of what was wrong with me. This song came on The Ghost Whisperer with Jennifer Love Hewitt, and I went straight to my computer and looked up the song by the lyrics.

Another song that sang to my pain by them is called Last to Know. The album, Life Starts Now, was the second to last album before Adam Gontier stepped down as the frontman, but it was one of my favorites and memorable. (The last song I can recall Adam being in before his leave is Chalk Outline.) I was literally the last to know that my husband at the time was cheating on me with my supposed best friend, and I come back to this song to keep me aware that people have to prove themselves for me to trust them. If I told my whole story, most would be surprised I could love anyone at all ever again. I am still waiting for the one. I don’t think he exists.

“Last To Know”

She just walked away
Why didn’t she tell me?
And where do I go tonight?
This isn’t happening to me
This can’t be happening to me
She didn’t say a word
Just walked away

You were the first to say
That we were not okay
You were the first to lie
When we were not alright
This was my first love
She was the first to go
And when she left me for you
I was the last to know

Why didn’t she tell me
Where to go tonight?
She didn’t say a word
She just walked away

You were the first to say
That we were not okay
You were the first to lie
When we were not alright
This was my first love
She was the first to go
And when she left me for you
I was the last to know

I’ll be the first to say
That now I’m okay
And for the first time
I’ve opened up my eyes
This was my worst love
You’ll be the first to go
And when she leaves you for dead
You’ll be the last to know [2x]

When Matt Walst took the frontman role and Adam Gontier left, I was devastated, mostly because it changed the face and the sound of 3DG.

There is just one song with Walst at the lead microphone that I found myself relating to back in the switch between lead singers, and it is called Fallen Angel by Three Days Grace. I will share this one too, and it’s for the purpose of seeing my why on not engaging 3DG anymore, and it was a song I did listen to when I was in pain in that same terrible marriage…my only marriage.

“Fallen Angel”

Late at night, I could hear the crying
I hear it all, trying to fall asleep
When all the love around you is dying

How do you stay so strong?
How did you hide it all for so long?
How can I take the pain away?
How can I save

A fallen angel, in the dark
Never thought you’d fall so far
Fallen angel, close your eyes
I won’t let you fall tonight
Fallen angel

You do it all for my own protection
You make me feel like I’ll be okay
Still, I have so many questions

How do you stay so strong?
How did you hide it all for so long?
How can I take the pain away?
How can I save

A fallen angel, in the dark
Never thought you’d fall so far
Fallen angel, close your eyes
I won’t let you fall tonight
Fallen angel, just let go
You don’t have to be alone
Fallen angel, close your eyes
I won’t let you fall tonight

I was right beside you
When you went to hell and back again
I was right beside you
When you went to hell and back again
And I, I couldn’t save, a fallen angel

A fallen angel, in the dark
Never thought you’d fall so far
Fallen angel, close your eyes
I won’t let you fall tonight
Fallen angel, just let go
You don’t have to be alone
Fallen angel, close your eyes
I won’t let you fall tonight
Fallen angel

As of today, I cannot say 3DG is one of my favorite bands because of my dislike of the change in sound. I moved on to bigger and brighter pastures with Flyleaf, Avenged Sevenfold, Five Finger Death Punch, Red, Chevelle, etc.

There is one by Chevelle that I will add to this post though, also in the same genre of music and same mood as the top three. (In fact, I am pretty sure they are in my playlist called “Mood Music” together.)

“Send The Pain Below”

I liked having hurt,
So send the pain below where I need it,
You used to beg me to take care of things,
And smile at the thought of me failing.

But long before, having hurt,
I’d send the pain below,
I’d send the pain below.

Much like suffocating,
Much like suffocating,
Much like suffocating,
(I’d send the pain below…)
Much like suffocating,
(I’d send the pain below…)

You used to run me away,
All while laughing.
Then cry about that fact,
’til I returned.

But long before, having hurt,
I’d send the pain below,
I’d send the pain below.

Much like suffocating,
Much like suffocating,
Much like suffocating,
(I’d send the pain below…)
Much like suffocating,
(I’d send the pain below…)
Much like suffocating.

I can’t feel my chest,
Need more, drop down,
Closing in.

I can’t feel my chest,
Drop down.

I liked, having hurt.
So send the pain below,
So send the pain below,
(Much like suffocating) [I liked]
So send the pain below,
(Much like suffocating) [Having hurt]
So send the pain below,
(Much like suffocating)
So send the pain below,
(Much like suffocating)
So send the pain below.

As you can tell by the lyrics and the songs, the pain has had a dominant role in my life, and today I am a better person because I had to live with that pain and learn how to treat it. Mentally, physically, and emotionally…I was broken down again and again. I don’t give that space or power in my life anymore because I don’t like when I can relate to songs with such painful lyrics and meaning.

Don’t get me wrong…I still love these songs though. They will always be on my playlist, and I will always listen to them. Rawk out!

xoxo,

E.M.

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