Opposites have always been said to attract, but I have never found that to be true in relationships with people. I find more of a connection with someone who is like me rather than the opposite of me. Each time I encounter someone who is the opposite of me, I have turned the other direction because that person does not interest me.
My failed marriage was with someone who was very different from me, and while it lasted a long time, I could barely stand him after the first year. It lasted so long because I did not want to start over again, and he was fine with me sticking around to use and abuse me. I don’t say this for pity, but I do say it to provide a foundation for why I believe how I believe.
Long story short, I think that quote about opposites attracting is not how I have experienced it in my life. I have always bonded over sharing the same trauma or trauma in general, which has not been healthy, but it felt better than spending my life with someone that drove me insane because they were not on my level.